Long-Distance Toys: The Best App-Controlled Picks from Lovense, We-Vibe and LELO

Distance does not have to mean disconnection. App-controlled toys let one partner control the other’s toy from anywhere with an internet connection, often while you talk on a video call. Here is how it works, and the toys we recommend.

How long-distance control works

1. The person using the toy pairs it with the brand’s free app over Bluetooth.
2. Both partners install the same app and connect their accounts.
3. The partner far away gets controls in their own app: intensity, patterns, and sometimes music or sound-reactive modes.

Some toys can also be linked to each other, so when one partner’s toy moves or is used, the other responds.

Lovense: built for distance

Lovense designs most of its range around long-distance play. Every toy below works with the Lovense app for close-range and long-distance control, custom patterns and sync-to-music.

Lush 3 and Lush 4

A wearable, insertable egg vibrator in body-safe silicone. Lush 3 offers up to 5 hours of continuous use and IPX7 waterproofing. Lush 4 adds faster charging, better battery life and a customizable LED tail light. Lush Mini is a smaller version that Lovense describes as ultra-quiet, a good fit for beginners.

Nora and Max 2

A matched pair. Nora is a rabbit vibrator with a rotating head and a vibrating arm. Max 2 is a male masturbator with air pumps that adjust tightness. Lovense designed them to sync with each other over the internet, so long-distance couples can feel each other’s movements.

Calor

A compact male toy with optional heating and depth-controlled vibration that gets stronger the deeper it goes. Lovense built it specifically for its long-distance line.

Edge 2

An adjustable prostate massager for the P-spot and perineum, designed for solo, discreet or long-distance play. IPX7 waterproof.

We-Vibe: couples-first design

The free We-Vibe app lets a partner take control from across the room or across a continent.

• Sync Go: a wearable couples vibrator with a travel case, perfect for visits.
• Jive 2: a wearable G-spot egg with an adjustable hinge, 10+ intensity levels and whisper-quiet vibration. Use the remote together, or the app apart.
• Moxie+: a clip-in wearable clitoral vibrator, whisper quiet.
• Vector+: an adjustable prostate massager with two motors, app and remote control.

LELO: Love Bridge

LELO SONA 3 connects to the LELO app, whose Love Bridge feature lets partners set up a private chat room and switch control of each other’s app-connected LELO toys.

Privacy and connection tips

• Use a strong, unique password for the toy’s app account, and only share control with people you trust.
• Check the app’s permissions on your phone and turn off anything you do not need.
• Test the connection first. A short, no-pressure trial run takes the stress out of the real thing.
• Agree on a stop signal. Whoever wears the toy should always be able to end the session instantly.

Browse all couples toys, or compare We-Vibe Sync and Chorus.